On {NOT} doing it all…(and a {little} announcement!)

On {NOT} doing it all…(and a {little} announcement!)

Do you ever look at someone else and wonder how they do it all?  I see women who run business, are doctors, make  homemade and über healthy meals seven nights a week, have beautifully decorated homes.  How do they do it?  How are they doing it all?  I’m trying, but it’s not going so well.  Obviously, this, comparing myself, is something I struggle with.

Then it dawned on me.  I don’t have to do it all, I can’t.  No one can.  I must only consider what God is calling me to do at this time in my life.  What He wants me to use my time and talents for. At this time in my life He has called me to be a homeschooling mother to my children…and He has also recently seen fit to bless us with news of baby number four!  Right now, as I battle the joys of morning sickness, motherhood, and teaching my little boys…I am trying to remind myself to focus on what God wants from me, and not what I want from me.

That doesn’t mean I don’t have expectations, or goals for my days and weeks…I just need to keep them in check with the “bigger picture.”

As long as I am doing right by God, I’m doing okay!

11 Responses »

  1. Congratulations, and all the more of those best blessings for you and yours.
    There’s probably not much more I can say about that, because:
    1. I’m older
    2. I’m the wrong gender
    3. You’ve been down this path before
    4. You have a terrific husband
    5. You have terrific friends,friends who understand, particularly Michelle and Jesse.
    How can I possibly add to that?!?!?!

    The doing it all thingy…. Even now, Jan refers to “…those days when I really DID think I was Supermom and could do it all.” For about 1/4 century she did her level-best to be Mom, bread-winner (always worked, sometimes 2 jobs, even a 3rd), wife, homemaker, and tried to hold up both ends of the marriage promise. It’s a great illusion. Also, it’s an illusion women like to put out there for other women to notice. Women are, stereotypically, very good at facades, appearances, and image. I don’t totally understand what I know about this, but I think it’s the price you pay for caring.

    You’re absolutely right – you have your path and purpose. The energy spent trying to keep up with unrealistic expectations is usually better spent trying to discern the divine plan(s) for YOU. Also, it’s hard to remember that plans come with free will and more than one choice on the menu. You can’t eat all items on the Olive Garden Menu in one sitting.

    I have always loved the phrase the airline attendants use in their Safety schpiel: “Remember to put your own oxygen mask on FIRST.” The practical and biological reasons speak for themselves. Like, “Duh!!” But, I notice that part of the talk is usually given by a woman. And, I think women need to pay more attention to it. Something about those X-chromosomes…

    Be gentle with yourself. Your family is entitled. YOU are entitled.
    And if you want a little more appreciation for all you do, here’s the secret people learn when they get to my age or older: DO LESS! You have 4 other people there to help out; put ’em to work!

    One thing I always hated as a kid (but it’s still right, I believe) was Saturday chores, or any time there were family chores to do. Mom would task each one of us, and she was probably equitable in her assignments. But if I finished mine before everyone else was done with theirs, then I had to help someone else. Talk about no good deed unpunished!!! But, it shifted the focus to what needed to be done… the WORK. And if everyone focused on THE WORK, then everyone could enjoy the results, and that much sooner.

    I guess you’ll be posting news around Sept-October?

  2. Congrats! That’s so exciting! I love babies.

    It is hard to decide what matters most sometimes. Especially when intentions are high and energy is low. I hope you have a healthy pregnancy – wishing you the best!

  3. Congratulations! and… I know how you feel. I have to give myself that talk all the time, and my wonderful husband often reminds me {regarding our often messy house} – “It’s our home, not a museum.”

  4. You have no need to feel ‘less than’ around anybody. Those ‘wonder women’ aren’t doing it all. It’s impossible to ride 3 horses at one time. Something is missing in their lives. Maybe they don’t have the time to take care of themselves. They probably seldom ever rest, relax, play with the kids, etc. etc. You are fabulous! How I look forward to your blogs each day. I’m so proud of you.

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