Marriage is Growing Us!

Marriage is Growing Us!

If you are married, did you ever notice that while you share common values and compatible goals with your spouse, you also have completely opposite personalities…which often means completely different ideas for reaching those compatible/common goals? Yup.  That leads to some interesting times in marriage. 

For instance, my husband and I both value family, living frugally, being self-sufficient, and most of all we seek to love God with all our hearts, souls, strength, and minds.  You would think we’re set for a smooth road of marital bliss.

And usually we get along just fine.  But those times where there is conflict or misunderstanding are hard!  As we work through whatever the issue is we come to find out that {usually} we are wanting the same thing!  Common values!  We were just seeing a different way of getting there.  Different perspectives!  And we’re starting to learn something:  our differences in personality are tools shaping each of us to be more well-rounded people. Marriage is growing us!

My husband is a detail-guy.  He is thorough, takes his responsibilities very seriously, and likes to think things through and have a plan.  He is also dependable and thoughtful. And he likes to get the job done!  Yes, I really am blessed!  😀

Now me?  I am a just-give-me-the-main-idea-and-let-the-details-iron-themselves-out kinda gal {also known as global-minded according to Cynthia Ulrich Tobias}.  I’m easy-going, fly by the seat of my pants, and flexible.   I am more interested in relationships and experiences than achieving goals.  Yes, I know, he is really blessed too!  😉

And the thing is we really balance each other out!  I help him to relax and take some time to enjoy life, and give himself a little grace.  He teaches me to be a better planner and to be more purposeful and focused, otherwise I’d never get things done!  See?  Balance! 

God made such a wonderful variety of personalities.  While my husband loves me just the way I am, being with him helps me grow into a more mature and well-rounded person.  I hope I do the same for him.  I think God knew what He was doing when He brought us together! :)   Our differences are a good thing!

 

3 Responses »

  1. I can’t tell you anything you don’t already know.
    But for what it’s worth, we here in OK clearly agree with the fact that you two are terrific for each other. Those children of yours have 2 terrific parents who make a wonderful team. If I’m jealous, it’s because you guys got it right the first time!!!

    uhhh we may wanna borrow Jesse for the same reason you do – get some good detailed planning done!

    Keep on keepin’ on. You’re both entitled.

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