No Regrets

No Regrets

Wow!  What a difference nine years makes!  Nine years ago last night, was my first date with this really cute shy guy with amazing blue eyes who I met at church.  Now we’re married and have four kids!!!!! 

Jesse surprised us and took the whole family out to dinner at same little cafe where that first date took place.  {He’s so sweet!}  Not much has changed in the historical cafe in the middle of Minnesota, but our lives are hardly recognizable…in a good way. 

It’s funny to think back to when we were first getting to know each other. 

I was out of college, trying to survive a huge family tragedy, and working a temporary job after finishing a year-long mission trip to South America.  I was wondering what to do with my life. Jesse was new to the area having bought land in our small community, and he was helping his parents build their house in the lot next to his.  We met right before Christmas, had our first date March 1st, and June 14th we were engaged.  We married in January. 

Yup, we met and a year later we were married! 


Sometimes life changes in an instant.  Sometimes changes are a gradual change in direction.  One instant you’re strangers.  Then next you’ve just met your future spouse.  You just never know!

There’s been a lot of changes over the last nine years in our lives.  But our constant is trusting in the Unchangeable One. 

Before I met Jesse, I wasted spent a lot of time wondering what to do with my life, who would I marry, etc.  I could’ve saved myself much worry had I only trusted.  Easier said than done…  I know.  Still, the majority of my regrets are time wasted worrying, pining for something I didn’t have.  Not that the wants are all bad: I believe many were God-given desires.  The regret comes when I think of the time and energy I poured into wishing for something different.

One thing I NEVER regret: the prayer I would utter in the midst of confusion, disillusionment, and longing when I trusted enough to say   “not my will but YOUR will be done.”  There are times my will was definitely different from God’s.  But that prayer has made all the difference. 

He knew what He was doing.  Nine years ago, I wouldn’t have guessed that my life would look like it does today.  It’s so much better than I ever dreamed!  {And please note:  better does not necessarily mean easier…it just means BETTER!} 

So, no matter the circumstance I can remember: God is good all the time, and if I trust Him, I’ll have a lot less regrets!

Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever!”

Ephesians 3:20-21

How has God done more than you ever dreamed?  We’d love to hear your story!



5 Responses »

  1. I remember that journey you were on. Mainly because we were on the same one together. Oh how life changes. 3 kids and a wonderful husband later, I know I am blessed. The journey was not easy, but I have grown closer to the Lord through it all. Thanks for reminding me of that.

  2. Michelle, what a beautiful story. D and I met and married in less than a year too. Sometimes when you know, you just know. And when you’re ready, you’re ready. I had to laugh – I didn’t notice until I clicked on the picture to make it bigger, but there’s a little ghost child in the background! Ha! :) Happy 10th year of marriage. Or 9th? I don’t know. Anyway, Love you, and can’t wait to meet your beautiful family someday.

    • It’s so funny how similar our “journeys” are, Jeannine! Yes, the ghost child is my nephew…I noticed after I posted the pic! And likewise, I would love to meet you and the rest of the Eubanks someday! I think it would be a fun time to see our families together!

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